A Father and Sons Bike Ride

12 Jan
Aloha is...seeing my husband mountain biking with his sons.

The band's back together!
This is a rare selfie and sighting of my husband and his boys out for a Sunday Funday ride.  One, he hates taking selfies.  Two, it's rare that the three of them can coordinate any time together.

When I first met Matt and his sons, I learned how much they loved to ride. In fact, the boys used to compete in BMX racing just four years before we met.  Aidan was even a national champion at only 5 years old.  They eventually walked away from the sport because it required constant travel, but work responsibilities didn't always allow for that.  It had also become quite expensive to maintain that lifestyle.

Since then, Matt and the boys continued to mountain bike with each other or with their friends.  But you need a lot of time to go out for a decent ride and when I met Matt, most of his time outside of work was focused coaching for 9-year-old Aidan's pop Warner football and youth lacrosse teams.  Because the boys were eight years apart, Zach was a 17-year-old teenager more focused on hanging out with his buddies.  Eventually time just dictated what they did and didn't do and before they knew it, they stopped riding together.

As they got older, coordinating schedules only got harder.  Matt not only continued to coach youth sports, but then Aidan also got involved in club sports that required traveling all over San Diego and Orange counties and even across the country.  Then Matt got into coaching at the high school level once Aidan became a freshman.  After Zach graduated high school, he got a part-time job and attended a community college nearby, which meant spending what little time he had left with his girlfriend.

But once Aidan and Matt both left the football program (due to low participation rates), that finally opened up some time for them to connect outside of structured sports.  That was the game changer for Matt's fitness. He started to work out with Aidan at our local gym and he got a new mountain bike and started to ride with his friend, Jason, weekly.  Once Aidan got a new bike for Christmas this year,  they were able to include Aidan on rides.

Then this happened.

One Sunday, all three Quigg boys were finally able to coordinate their schedules away from work, sports and school responsibilities and go on a family ride together.  This made my heart so happy!  It can be hard to find a mutual interest among family members of different ages and different stages of their lives.  But Aidan is just about at that age when I met Zach, as he turns 17 in April.  Zach's turning 25 this year and Matt's turning 49.  This is as close as it's going to get where they all have somewhat similar fitness levels. 

But the bottomline is that I'm really happy to see my husband get some quality time alone with his boys.

Aloha is creating and spending time with the people who matter most in your life.  Getting exercise, sharing a passion and spending time outdoors while you're at it is even better!   Biking outside releases your feel-good chemicals called endorphins, burns fat, strengthens your heart and lung capacity as well as increases leg strength and muscle endurance.  Having mutual interests strengthens your connections with others and spending time outdoors helps give your brain a break from the daily grind, thus, lowering blood pressure and stress and boosting your mental health and immune system.  :As a result, exercise outdoors feels less strenuous than similar exercise indoors, which, in turn, pushes you closer to your maximum performance. Train outdoors, push yourself to the limit and keep breaking your personal record!"*. And, break personal records Matt is!

So, not only are you positively serving your body with exercise, but, even more importantly, you're also serving your mind and spirit by strengthening your connections in Mother Nature.  I call that mind-body-spirit-aloha!

Also, I believe there's nothing more important than leading by example while teaching your children the importance of self-care and exercise.  You're teaching a life skill and positive healthy habits when you teach them to exercise.  And nothing sends the message home stronger than them seeing you do it, too.  Self-care is a big part of building other self-powers like self-esteem, self-confidence and self-worth.  When you take care of your mind, body and spirt, they will take care of you in return!  When you feel better physically, you tend to feel better mentally.  When you feel better mentally, you tend to do better in Life!

I'm so proud of the boys for giving their father this time with them.  Life goes by too fast and we just never know what's around the corner.  While they've asked me to join them, to be honest, it's just not my thing.  And, I actually prefer that they have something in common and special to share with their father.  It is the only thing they all do together as a family besides go to the movies!

So, go ahead and take your family outside to connect!  Make your body feel good and feel good about sharing aloha, cultivating your relationships, boosting your connections, increasing communication, building trust and creating fond family memories.

Live, Love and Lead with Aloha!

*Source: "10 Reasons Why Outdoor Training is Better Than a Gym Workout" (Lapset.com)
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