I’m the kind of person who’s always looking to make changes. I’m always searching for ways to make myself and my life better. I believe in making the most out of my life.
Making changes first requires reflection. I usually choose my birthday and the end of the year to reflect on my life. I review what went right and what went wrong that year. I think about how far I’ve come in my journey and how much farther I have yet to go. I look at the goals I’ve set in the past and assess the results. Then, I create new goals and a few actions steps to move me in the direction of achieving them.
It’s not my birthday and it’s not the end of the year, yet I can’t help but think now is as good a time as any to reflect. With this pandemic forcing changes in how we currently live and perhaps how we may live in the future, it seems like an ideal time to hit the pause button and re-evaluate my life once again.
Life is not just about the big achievements or milestones. Life is also made up of all the little moments strung together to create the fabric of our lives. It is how we weave these moments together that create the unique colors and shapes of our fabric. And, every layer of detail creates its warmth, making the life you desire more positive and fulfilling. But sometimes, we get a snag in the fabric, caused by major life changes or challenges. Snags can create holes - some bigger than others - that collectively cause a draft when you wear it. Our resilience determines our ability to patch them.
Major life changes and challenges pose another benchmark opportunity to re-evaluate one’s life and goals. Challenges can bring out the best or the worst in us. They can test our faith and our resilience. We can choose to see everything that is going wrong or we can hold onto what is still going right and continue to move in that direction. Reflection can also mean revisiting our beliefs and values and determining if and how we choose to evolve from here.
While a health crisis and recession can make it all too tempting to remain paralyzed in fear, doubt and worry, it is still possible to take steps in a direction that supports the life you want to create and the person you want to become. In fact, any steps taken in the midst of a crisis creates positive change.
Consider putting time aside to reflect on your life and goals. Be still and ask if there was something you wished was different about your life or yourself, what would it be? You might ask yourself who you want to be now. Do you want to be known and admired for your integrity, loyalty, honesty, kindness, compassion and strength? Now is an opportunity to better yourself and to raise your standards or protect the ones you have.
You might have more than one thing you wished was different. No matter how many there are, write them down. Then, go through this list one by one and ask yourself which ones you think you could focus on right now. It can be just one!
Anything new or different that you can do to benefit your mind, body or spirit creates a positive change in your life. Positive changes do not have to be drastic to be effective. They can be baby steps that you find manageable and doable considering the circumstances. They can be minor tweaks to just help keep you going or to help change your life altogether.
What do you feel a call to change? Is it to be happier and more fun to be around? Avoid negative people and bad news as much as possible. Watch shows or movies that make you laugh daily. Start doing whatever it is you can to have more fun. Follow your passions. Get some fresh air to boost your mood. Get more sleep so you’re less cranky. Is it to change how you look or feel? Start being mindful of the foods you eat and drink more water while decreasing your sugar intake. Get more sleep so you have more energy. Start walking to help increase your endorphine levels (your feel-good hormones) and get you excited about becoming more physically active. Find workout motivation online or enlist a buddy. Do you want to improve your relationship? Communicate with your partner about your needs and your concerns. Then, find some self-help sources online to research how to best address them or enlist a professional counselor. Is it to learn or accomplish more? Research the subject matters that intrigue you the most.
If you don’t feel like you’re in a position or frame of mind to take steps to make a change right now, can you change your attitude in the meantime? Both are effective in helping to create a more positive, fulfilling life.
Either way, the answer is always to begin somewhere. Adopting a positive attitude is the first step to feeling better no matter what your circumstances. A positive outlook will guide you to appropriate action steps that will lead to positive results and outcomes.
Some people are understandably not in a good mental space right now to consider making positive changes when they are just trying to survive from day to day. They might be in a dark place where they are not yet prepared to see the good still left in the world. But, while times are tough right now, don’t let people without vision lessen your view of the world or the life you want to create for yourself.
If you want to create your best life for tomorrow, my Pineapple, commit to making a positive change today.
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