'Cause the players gonna play, play, play, play, play
And the haters gonna hate, hate, hate, hate, hate
Baby, I'm just gonna shake, shake, shake, shake, shake
I shake it off, I shake it off" - Taylor Swift
One of the biggest fears people have is the fear of what other people think. Why do we give other people that much power over us? Why does what they think matter so much?
The truth is that it doesn’t matter what other people think. What matters most is what you think. After all, are they building your dream life for you? Are they taking care of you or looking out for your best interests? Are they paying your bills? Are they doing all the work? If the answers are no, then focus on your own thoughts, beliefs, and dreams.
No matter what the naysayers say, don't give into their energy. Your dreams are about you - not them - so you can’t expect anyone else to care about them the way you do.
People are quick to put you and your dreams down when they don’t have the courage to build their own. It keeps them from having to work on their own mindset and even their own dreams. It’s also easier to tell you that you can’t accomplish what you want because it makes them feel better about their own shortcomings, fears, or doubts. After all, misery loves company, right?
To cultivate the right headspace to reach your goals, put yourself in the right place to focus on them. Consider distancing yourself from those with negative mindsets. Those who are not supportive will only wear you down mentally and slow down your progress creatively. Instead, surround yourself with the dreamers and the doers. They will inspire you with ideas and suggestions and motivate you in challenging times.
In the meantime, take back your power. When someone says something negative to you, try this trick: give them a compliment. That's right! When they put you down about something you're doing, you can shift the energy in the room by giving them a compliment about something they're doing well. Also, ask them questions about their own goals and dreams and find something good to say. See what happens next!
Your vibe attracts your tribe. When you believe in your goals and dreams, it’s only a matter of time before you attract others who believe in them too. Use this affirmation to keep your dream alive and your mindset strong.