What do you want? What do you really want? If you could be, do, or have anything you desired, what is it?
Do you want to be rich or just financially comfortable? Do you want fancy cars or boats, or do you want a home with an ocean view? Do you want to take luxurious vacations or to travel around the world?
Would you like to change your career? Would you like to be more comfortable in your own skin or find your own voice?
Would you like to start dating again, get married, divorced, or just find a good companion for nice conversation?
Does meandering around the country in an RV to catch the sunset in every state sound appealing? Or, do you just want a quiet life at home with those who matter most? Maybe you look forward to growing old with your spouse, reminiscing about the good old days, and watching your grandchildren grow up.
No matter what you want, you can have it all. No matter what anyone has told you or what you may have told yourself, you deserve the life you desire. Of course, it will take time, effort, determination, and patience. As they say, the sky's the limit, and the only thing that holds you back is you.
So, what's holding you back? What fears or false beliefs have you been telling yourself? What makes you doubt yourself or your dreams?
False beliefs are the stories we've repeatedly heard or told ourselves until we were convinced they were true. At one point, there may have even been some truth to them, but over time they've been blown out of proportion and gotten out of control. Eventually they’ve transformed into lies we mistake for facts. As a result, they have become the limitations we've placed on ourselves. Hence, they are also called "self-limiting" beliefs.
False beliefs hold us back from realizing our dreams. It is common to have doubts, fears, and false beliefs. After all, negative life experiences can leave a sour taste in our mouths. They can create hesitation or discourage us from pursuing our dreams. But don't let them rule your life!
Self-doubt, fear, and false beliefs pull us out of alignment with our true selves and desires. Once they take permanent residency in your mind, they will easily sabotage and delay your success. They make it harder to focus on your goals and stay motivated to achieve them. Ultimately, they prevent you from attaining the levels of happiness, health, and success you desire.
But you can shake your doubts, conquer your fears, and destroy your false beliefs by choosing faith instead. To restore self-belief, you must realign your true self with your desires.
Here are five tips how:
First, identify one of your desires. Then identify the fear or false belief you have that holds you back from pursuing this desire.
For example, you want to go back to college. But you fear that you can’t afford the tuition or the time and energy to get a degree while working full-time.
Going left hand to right hand, state your fear or false belief out loud while sticking out your left thumb and then state your desire using your right thumb.
Use the phrase, “Even though I’m afraid that/concerned about____," (add your self-limiting belief), "I still want _____" (your desire). Using your fingers from each hand, repeat the same phrases until you use up all 10 fingers.
Example: Even though I’m afraid I won’t be able to afford the tuition or have the energy to handle both work and school (left finger), I still want to get my bachelor’s degree. (right finger)
It is OK to have fear. It's OK to have doubts. But don't let them rule your life! The biggest bully in your life can be your own mind. Don't let it manipulate you into believing you're not worthy to have everything you want.
Life is what you make of it. So, make it great one thought at a time.
Live, love, and lead with Aloha.