Happy Aloha Friday!
Life tends to be a little slower and less stressful outside of the East Coast, where I'm from. That's not to say things don't move along, progress, or get hectic in other parts of the country. And it certainly doesn't mean everyone lives on Easy Street. But let's just say life is different back East.
Your physical environment has a direct impact on your mental health and well-being. Back in Connecticut and New York, where I also used to work, I always felt rushed because the environment was so much more fast-paced and demanding. Driving 99-mile round-trip commutes in inclement weather during the winter months was scary enough. But being around others who were constantly high-strung, impatient, or even angry also didn't feel good.
Feeling pressure, stress, tension, and anxiety became a daily way of life. I worked to live and lived to work. And yet no matter how fast or hard I worked, I never felt like I was getting anywhere. So, what was the point?
As I approached 40, I wanted to find more work-life balance. It was difficult for me to stop and smell the roses or breathe. I cannot tell you how many people suggested yoga and meditation. But I just didn't believe I could "om" my life enough to compensate for this rat-race East Coast lifestyle.
I craved the beachy vibes and laid-back attitude of the West Coast. For me, California Dreamin' meant sunny vibes and sunnier dispositions. I wanted to blend my East Coast work ethic with the natural ability of West Coasters to live in the moment.
Now that I've adopted an aloha mindset, I've been working on slowing down even more. And now I'm on aloha time.
They say dwelling on the past creates depression and worrying about the future creates anxiety. So, focus on the present and learn how to be happy.
We cannot control anyone or anything but our attitudes and actions. Being on aloha time to me means adopting a mindset of letting things be or letting things go. In other words, I'm trying not to control every minute of every day anymore. I try not to bite off more than I can chew either. If I don't get everything done on my daily to-do lists, I know there's always tomorrow.
Being on aloha time helps me take every moment as it comes and embrace what is more than what isn't. I want to be hopeful yet detached about the future. In other words, I have goals and dreams, but I'm a lot more flexible about how I achieve them. So, I don't know when something I want is going to happen, but I have faith that it will when it's supposed to.
I used to be so much more "all or nothing" when I lived back East. It was "my way or the highway." But living in extremes only created more stress. Now I'm learning to embrace the gray areas of my life and to be OK with them.
Living on aloha time helps put you in a positive and peaceful state of mind. It creates more harmony between you and your environment, including everyone around you. And it makes you more mindful of the power you have over your actions and reactions.
So, get your groove back. Take it slow. Stop and feel the sunshine on your face. Take deeper breaths and longer sighs of relief. And embrace this very moment before it's gone.
This moment is all we have and the only thing we know for sure. So, make it positive. Before you know it, more will come your way.
Live, love, and lead with Aloha.