"Dreams are the seeds of change. Nothing ever grows without a seed, and nothing ever changes without a dream." - Debby Boone
What is a dream you have? If you were to close your eyes and imagine your ideal life, your ideal self, or something you’ve always wanted to do or accomplish, what do you see? If you rubbed a magic lamp and a genie popped out to grant you three wishes, what would you wish for?
I never imagined myself ever wanting to live in California. I never thought it would be a place I would fit in. My struggles in life were always about fitting in, being accepted, and feeling like I belonged. I constantly sought places outside of Connecticut to belong. I’ve lived in the Northeast, the Southeast, and the Midwest. But, I had never tried the West.
In my mind, I imagined everyone in California was blonde, blue-eyed, and suntanned with a beach body. Then, one summer weekend while hanging out at my old stomping grounds in Newport, RI, I met a Marine who was studying at the War College there. It was a warm night in August when we met at H2O bar on the water. That chance meeting changed my life.
When the summer ended, Phillip returned to Camp Pendleton, located here in San Diego. Phillip and I dated long-distance a short while, but we remained friends while he continued to travel the world, leading combat units. It was Phillip who planted the seed in my mind that I was a California girl. Initially, I scoffed at the idea, telling him I didn’t fit in. When I described what I thought to be a true California girl, he laughed. “My dear, only 1% of the population looks like that,” he said. (As it turns out, he was right.)
Within two years of meeting Phillip, a few visits to San Diego, our break-up, and a three-month stay with a Connecticut friend who lived in Encinitas, I decided I wanted to move to California. Actually, I felt like I needed to move to California. I felt like l belonged there. It felt like my forever home.
This was 12 years ago, and here I am. While it took another three years from the time I did my trial stay, I remember how I couldn’t stop thinking about it. I dreamed about it both day and night. At that point, moving to California was what I wanted most in my life even though I wasn’t quite sure how I would pull it off. The best way I can explain it is that it was a calling, a strong energetic pull to California that is still hard to put into words. It felt spiritual.
Your dreams are indicators of change. They act as the check-engine light signaling you to make changes that would help your life run better somehow. When you dream the same dreams, pay attention. If you constantly think about something you want to be different in your life, then it’s up to you to do something about it.
But just thinking about your desires won’t do anything. That’s just wishful thinking.
The ideas planted in your mind can only grow with action. Action brings your ideas and visions to life by creating change. The right actions create the right changes - whether they are the results you expected or not. Therefore, dreams can’t come true unless you do something about them.
Be willing to nurture your thoughts, ideas, and dreams. Nurture them with love, kindness, and compassion. Respect your dreams because they matter. They are extensions of you. Respect yourself because you matter. If you believe in your dreams, then you can believe in yourself, too. Self- respect and self-belief will help you find a way to create the right changes in your life that make your dreams come true.
Lastly, nurture your self-worth. Believe that you deserve your dreams to come true. Feeling worthy is essential to growing your dreams and helping your life blossom.
Your ideas are worth nurturing. Your dreams are worth growing. Dream big, my Pineapple!
Live, Love, and Lead with Aloha.