Have you ever lost a job? Have you ever had your heart broken? Have you ever missed the game-winning shot in a sport?
If something didn’t work out or go as planned, it’s OK to be disappointed. It’s also expected to feel sad, mad, or depressed and to express these emotions. But, no matter how badly you feel, the sooner you turn that frown upside down, the better.
Every failure is an opportunity to learn from experience and create success. So, find the lessons and use them as fuel to light your world on fire. Consider Thomas Edison, the inventor of the light bulb. Did you know he failed over 6,000 times before it worked? That means he kept going at least 5,999 more times after his first failure. He made room for success by believing in himself, having courage, and being persistent.
You can overcome failure and achieve all that you want with the right attitudes and actions to support them. Consider Michael Jordan. He never let failure stop him from becoming an NBA basketball legend. In fact, he said, “I've missed more than 9,000 shots in my career. I've lost almost 300 games. Twenty-six times, I've been trusted to take the game-winning shot and missed. I've failed over and over and over again in my life. And, that is why I succeed.”
Sometimes the best things in life come from life’s biggest disappointments. If something hadn’t failed, would you be where you are right now? Everything and everyone in our path leads us to the next step in our lives. My heart was broken countless times. In fact, I had to kiss many frogs in my life before finally marrying my prince at the age of 45. I knew he was out there; I just had to find him. But if I had continued to dwell on my failed relationships, I would have remained stuck. In fact, I'd still be living in Connecticut and wouldn't have met the love of my life here in San Diego. The key is to make room for what's possible and what's meant for you and to keep moving toward it.
Let go of what's not meant for you and make room for what is by cultivating aloha - love, kindness and compassion. Love yourself enough to let go of your past; move forward towards better possibilities; and believe you deserve greatness if you continue to be persistent. Practice kindness by giving yourself credit for moving in the direction of your dreams and by surrounding yourself with positive people who believe in you. These people will lift you higher and help you succeed. And lastly, have compassion for yourself. Anything worth doing is worth doing right. But, anything worth doing right takes time, energy, effort and skill. So, go easy on yourself. Give yourself the time to acquire the skills and experience needed to achieve whatever it is you desire.
Success is not a race. It is a journey. To truly appreciate success, you must appreciate the journey however many heartbreaks, mistakes, misses, losses, failures, flaws or setbacks there are. If we have room for these, then we can make room for patience, positivity, possibility and practicing aloha.
Live, Love and Lead with Aloha!