Happy Random Acts of Kindness Day!
It's Day 4 of Random Acts of Kindness Week and here's today's challenge:
Perform three acts of peace.
"Peace is not absence of conflict, it is the ability to handle conflict by peaceful means." - Ronald Reagan
Peace can be described as:
▶ Being in harmony with yourself, others, or your environment
▶ Freedom from hostility, violence, or fear, such as the fear of losing your loved ones, your job, your rights, or your dignity
▶ Accepting or learning to love others no matter how different they are from you and wishing others well.
10 Ways to Show or Act in Peace:
1. Do a good deed.
"To the world you may be one person; but to the one person you may be the world." - Dr. Suess
There is no good deed that goes unnoticed. Even the smallest deed has the biggest impact on someone's life. When you take the time to do something for someone else, it shows how much you care about their happiness or success. Helping others empowers the world to be a better place for us all. When you lead with kindness in the form of a good deed, you are pumping positive vibes into the world and creating peace and harmony in your relationships.
2. Avoid an argument or fight; pick your battles!
Arguing or fighting requires a lot of mental and emotional energy. Use your energy wisely. Would you prefer to use your energy negatively or positively? Which would net better results? We all disagree with our spouses, friends, family members, and co-workers from time to time. But, sit back and consider which ones are worth going to battle. I'm not saying that you don't matter or your voice shouldn't be heard. I'm saying look at the bigger picture and determine your priorities. Are some things left unsaid? Can you compromise? What is most important right now? Will this matter five hours, five days, or five years from now? Carefully select what matters most in how you want to live.
3. Seek a win-win solution to a problem that affects others.
There are two sides to every coin. There's two sides to every story. And, there's more than one way to skin a cat. The best way to solve any problem or dispute is to create a win-win solution. Try to put yourselves in each other's shoes to help you understand the situation better and how you can both win. When both sides feel like they are getting or gaining something out of a situation, it produces more peace and harmony in the relationship. It builds trust, strengthens bonds, and improves communication.
4. Collaborate with someone on a project, task, or challenge by offering an idea or help.
Two heads are better than one. Working together is an act of peace, especially when you're trying to build something or solve a problem. You can get the results you need faster when you combine forces. Learn how to put your differences aside for the big picture. But, use your differences to create solutions. In other words, use each person's strengths and weaknesses strategically to create the results you seek. Where one person has a weakness, another person can fill in with their strength. This is how you value each person's talents and skills, boosting self-worth and self-esteem.
5. Pausing your judgement, get to know or understand someone with a different lifestyle or opinion. (Ex: sexual orientation, gender, culture, or politics).
We live in an age where people can voice their opinions in an instant and as far as around the globe. With the help of social media, we can now judge people we don't even know with our comments on Facebook, Instagram, and Twitter, amongst other platforms. But, let us not forget that even we choose to make remarks about someone else, our very own comments are also open for criticism. Therefore, be the change you wish to see in the world. Before you comment on someone completely different from you, aim to put yourself in their shoes. After all, how can you comment on something you don't even know about? Use the opportunity to broaden your horizons, gain some insight, and expand your knowledge by learning their point of view. Then, if you are to comment, do so with kindness and respect. Remember that you are not them and that, in the end, your opinion of them does not matter to them as much as their own. In other words, what matters most is what we think of ourselves.
6. Stand up to bullying.
Bullies exist at every age and across all walks of life. Even in senior living, I've witnessed 90-year old residents gang up on new residents and be unkind. No one likes the feeling of being bullied. It's OK to need help and to help others, especially when dealing with a bully. Helping others empowers the world to be a better place. When you stand up to someone being bullied, that shows you care about their safety and well-being. You show that they matter, too! Most of the time, the bully is the person who needs love and attention the most. But, because they don't know how to ask for it, they respond to the world with hostility. Don't match their hostility with more hostility. Show them the way with acts of kindness. It might take time, but it's always worth it. The world feels brighter, lighter, and safer when you replace hostility with love, kindness, compassion, peace, and harmony.
7. Give someone the benefit of the doubt.
We can be quick to judge others and not to trust them. By leaning on our negative experiences in life, it's easier to practice caution than faith. But, sometimes it's worth being open to chance. By giving someone the benefit of the doubt, you are offering them a chance to prove themselves to you. Until they've done something wrong, why not give them this chance? Giving someone a chance shows kindness, respect, and peace on your part. By lowering your guard, you are setting the tone for creating meaningful connections, strengthening bonds, building relationships, and developing peaceful outcomes.
8. Practice breathwork to calm your mind and relax your body.
We overlook the power of our breath. Taking deeper breaths helps to reset your mindset, boost your mood, calm your mind, and relax your body. When you focus intensely on the sound and sensation of inhaling and exhaling, you demonstrate living in the present moment. This momentarily helps you block out everything and everyone around you. In doing so, you're helping to put your mind and body in a calmer state. When you are more calm, you think more clearly. When you feel more calm, you act more calmly. When you act more calmly, your results are more positive. This practice helps cultivate more inner peace and, overtime, its results will help you create more peaceful interactions with others.
9. Meditate for any length of time.
Meditation is not only an act of peace toward yourself, but its results benefit everyone around you. Meditation is a self-care practice that requires your full attention on the present moment. By learning how to focus intensely on a sound, image, or feeling for any length of time, you are learning how to tune out the chaos of the world around you. Overtime, this exercise will condition and teach you how to stay more calm, focused, and present. In doing so, you can help reduce anxiety, depression, stress, anger, and even insomnia. The benefits of doing so are limitless. From less arguments with your spouse, less yelling at your children, and less emotional reactions with others to better concentration on your work, feeling more content and satisfied with all areas of your life, and better health overall, meditation is helpful to anyone wanting to get more out of life.
10. Spend time outdoors.
According to the Hawaiian culture, aloha first begins with treating yourself with kindness and respect and then treating others the same way. This means be a leader. By acting in kindness, we pump more positive vibes out into the world. Creating positivity helps cultivate peace and harmony within ourselves, with each other, and with our environment. Therefore, spending time outdoors and communing with nature is a way to cultivate more peace within yourself and your environment. Spending time outdoors creates an appreciation for the world we live in and how we can impact the space around us. Learning how to live in harmony with our environment invites more peace into our lives.