Doesn't it suck when you feel like everything you're doing just isn't enough? Giving your all can still feel like it's not enough. But who decides what is enough or not?
Sometimes we place such high or even unattainable expectations upon ourselves. But we don't deserve that kind of pressure. So, where does this pressure come from? It can come from constantly comparing ourselves to others.
Comparing ourselves to others and believing we should be where they are by now only creates unnecessary stress. We arrive when we're ready to arrive. We each come into our own in our own way and in our own timing. That's what makes us and our journeys each unique and special.
Placing too much pressure on ourselves and not embracing enough patience leads to feeling like we are not enough or that we are not doing enough. We also tend to place more focus on what we have not yet done than what we have already done. But failing to give yourself credit for all you are and all you have achieved is a mistake. Giving yourself credit is the key to building self-worth and self-esteem.
The best and the fastest way to achieve your goals is to first feel good enough about yourself. Feeling good about yourself builds a stronger mindset to pursue your dreams and desires. So, find a way to feel good about where you are in this moment to help carry you into the next.
To do this, first decide that you deserve to feel like you are enough. Then, decide and declare that you are enough. Then, decide and declare that you're doing enough.
To help you achieve this task, look for proof. Find evidence by making a list of all the good things you have already done, achieved, or received in your life. Focus on your best qualities and passions, too. Look for as many positive things as possible and go as far back as possible into your life if necessary. Don't leave any rock unturned. Don't just look for the good in the big things; look into the small things for what makes you great, too. You'll see that there are many great achievements in even the smallest of accomplishments.
Just because you have not yet achieved something doesn't necessarily mean you won't. It just means you haven't yet. You just need more time.
Giving yourself enough credit for what you have done in the past can help build your confidence, self-belief, and faith. This powerful combination can help build patience. It will help you see that it's only a matter of time before you achieve what you want next. In other words, focus on what's gone right in the past to help you believe that more can go right in the future if you make space for it.
Giving yourself more credit and less criticism also creates more self-compassion. Being so hard on yourself will only delay the process or discourage you from following through on pursuing your desires.
So, decide that you are enough. Declare that you're doing your best and that you're doing enough. But be honest with yourself. If you realize that you really aren't doing your best, make a commitment to boost your efforts. Lastly, decide that there's enough time to achieve your goal.
The only pressure is the pressure you place on yourself. But what's the rush? Who says it's not enough? You decide that.
Take back your power by deciding what "enough" means to you.
Live, Love, and Lead with Aloha.To Say Your Daily Aloha:
Take a deep, cleansing breath. Inhale through your nose for three counts. Exhale for four counts. Then, exhale forcefully through your mouth over five counts. Then, say Your Daily Aloha Affirmation out loud at least three times.For a more powerful session:
▶Look at yourself in the mirror as you say this affirmation.
▶Add smiling to help retrain your brain and boost happiness.*
▶Say this affirmation as you face a problem or situation head-on or repeat it throughout the day.What is a Daily Affirmation:
A daily affirmation is an easy tool you can incorporate into your life to empower you to greatness. When used regularly, affirmations will help you build courage and confidence, pursue your goals and dreams, and live, love, and lead with aloha! Saying positive statements out loud daily can also improve your well-being by boosting your mood, lifting your spirits, and helping you to cultivate a more positive attitude. Your Daily Aloha Affirmation is the game-changer you need to create more positive thoughts, actions, and outcomes in your life! Use today's affirmation or find another that resonates with you in the "Your Daily Aloha Affirmations" section of this website.
* Scientists say smiling creates a happiness feedback loop in our brains. When we smile, our facial muscles fire a signal back to the brain, which increases levels of happy hormones, or endorphins.
The loop: When our brain feels happy, we smile; when we smile, our brain feels happier. Thanks to this feedback loop, we can alter our brain's emotional processing pathway to feel happier with a simple smile. Smiling also helps reduce anxiety, lower blood pressure, and heart rate.Did you know?:
The happiness level that a smile can bring to our brains is estimated as equivalent to that of having 2,000 bars of chocolate.
Source: "What's the Science Behind a Smile?" (BritishCouncil.org)