Standing up for yourself and everything that is important to you is an important life skill to have. It takes courage to stand up for what you believe in and for what you value. It takes even more courage to stand up for yourself and everything you hold dear when no one else is behind you.
But don’t let that discourage you. Standing up for yourself is not only an act of bravery but also a reflection of a strong sense of self, or, as I call it, your “self-powers.” Your self-powers include self-respect, self-worth and self-esteem. Self-respect is described as having a sense of pride and confidence in yourself as well as having honor and dignity. Self-worth is how you value yourself or what you feel you deserve. For example, do you feel you’re worthy of love, happiness and success? Self-esteem is how you view yourself, or your opinion of yourself. It includes how you would describe yourself. For example, would you describe yourself as funny, smart and beautiful or boring, dumb and ugly?
By standing up for yourself, you are taking control of your life, which further boosts confidence and self-esteem. Taking control of your life helps you feel strong and capable. Feeling strong makes you strong. Therefore, standing up for yourself is a good skill to practice when the time and place is appropriate.
Standing up for yourself begins with being clear on what you value in your life. If you struggle with self-doubt, then naturally it can be hard to stand up for yourself and your beliefs. So, take the time to figure out what is important to you. Knowing where you stand on major issues and decisions in your life can help you create boundaries when interacting with others who may or may not be in support of your beliefs, values, goals or dreams.
Boundaries show others how you want to be treated. Using your decisions, attitudes, actions and words to represent what you stand for will show others how they should treat you and how they can respect your wishes. You can’t please everyone all the time, but you can please yourself by not compromising your sense of self.
Standing up for yourself and what you believe in is also an opportunity to practice aloha. Your voice and your words are the most powerful tools for standing up for yourself. You don’t need to apologize or make excuses for your beliefs, but you can make your words and even your body language as positive, loving and compassionate as possible to create positive outcomes. To express yourself in a healthy and productive manner, simply state what you like or don’t like and learn how to say yes or no without putting anyone else down. In other words, just be polite, direct, and non-emotional. Using simple straight-forward statements lets others know how you feel and demonstrates your self-confidence while considering their feelings, needs and perspectives. Examples are: “Thank you, but I prefer to spend the weekend with my family.” “No, I’m not available on that date, but thank you for the invite!”
Standing up for yourself is a valuable skill for becoming the person you want to be and for building the life you desire. In fact, it is a great exercise for strengthening your mindset. Believing in yourself, your goals and your dreams combined with a strong sense of self and courage is the strongest strategy for pursuing your goals and dreams with positive actions. A strong sense of self will also help you will feel even more confident in your ability to achieve your goals and make your dreams come true regardless if you stand alone in your beliefs or what anyone else says or does.
Choose to stand up for your beliefs, values, goals and dreams, my Pineapple. It is one of the keys to achieving health, happiness and success.